What do you think is the best thing we can do for her?

Question by Mrs.Gaddis: What do you think is the best thing we can do for her?
My sister just turned 14 years old, and is out of control in alot of ways. She has cerebral palsey (not extreme, mentally she is perfectly healthy, but she does have some trouble walking and with balance, but it’s hardly even noticeable), so she is desperate to fit in with other kids. We’ve had problems with her drinking alcohol and smoking pot in the past, and have talked to her so many times it would make your head spin. My Grandmother raised us, and I feel really bad for my Grandma.

My sister constantly says that we don’t love her, and that nobody understands her. She says that we are half the reason she does the things she does. To me, this is totally absurd. My sister has a very good life in my opinion. In fact, I think my Grandma is too lenient with her sometimes. I feel like my husband and I have done everything we can to help my sister, and to make her understand that we do love her very much. But I really think that she has some psychological issues going on that need to
be dealt with. And soon. She has a friend that is a boy her age, and she has had a crush on him for a while. He just wants to be friends with her, and I honestly think that it has reached the point of obsession. He’s a nice kid, but she says she is depressed all the time because he doesn’t like her as more of a friend. She says she is never happy.

She was doing ok for a while, after my Grandma and I sat her down a few months ago, and seemed to get through to her. But then last night, my Grandma found out that she had been drinking AGAIN, and they got into a horrible argument. My Grandma did say some mean things to my sister about her being stupid for making the same mistakes over and over, but my sister then called my Grandma a “dumb f-ing b*tch”. Thats another problem. Her LANGUAGE. They got into really bad, and my Grandma took my sister in her bedroom and I guess my Grandma had her finger pointed in my sisters face, and my sister punched her right in the eye.I couldn’t believe it
So basically, my Grandma thinks that at this point, the best thing is to have my sister go to a sort of girls group home for a few months, and maybe talk to a counselor, etc. I’m afraid that since my sister thinks we hate her, that sending her somewhere, even temporarily will only further her thoughts that we don’t want her around.

However, hitting my Grandmother was the final straw and something needs to be done. Does anyone have any suggestions? What kind of program she needs? If we should send her anywhere at all? Any advice would be very helpful. I’m 7 months pregnant, and stressed beyond belief, and very concerned for both my sister and my Grandmother.

Best answer:

Answer by Shiler T
I don’t know what age this can be done but sending her to “treatment” for alcohol or drug abuse may be an answer. It worked for some of my friends. Most of them had to go several times before it stuck though.

One kid went three times before he stopped using for good. Now he’s a father and a husband, a general contractor. He says that treatment was the best thing that every happened to him.

Shi

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